How To Control Your Emotions

How many times have you goofed-up a particular situation or a scene because of your anger? Almost all of us have faced such an incidence in life, when our emotions had completely taken over our mind. Result - bad behavior, unhealthy relationships and sometimes even termination letter. One must understand that there is nothing wrong in feeling strongly about something, problem occurs when it comes to expression. Remember, it is not what you feel that counts, what matters, is what you do with those feelings. Controlling emotions is essential when you are in a public place or in your place of work. If you have been facing problems in controlling your emotion, do not worry, as we have provided below some of the effective ways and methods to manage your intense emotions.

Controlling Emotions

• The first step would be to identify those emotions, which you need to control. Right from angry flare-ups to disgust, there are numerous emotional displays that you might need to restrict, when it comes to public places.
• For instance, if you get easily angered, the best bet would be to focus all the energies towards breathing. Breathing in and out a number of times, reduces heart rate and accentuates the oxygen flow in the brain.
• Remember, when you are focusing your attention towards breathing, the mind gets diverted from the emotions and feelings.
• Another popular way would be to count backwards from 20 to 1. This is found effective in controlling the heighten emotions.
• Visualization is yet another great way to control the angry flare-ups or stress. Try to picture something that would produce a soothing image in your mind. It can be a snapshot of a beach, a candle, moonlight and so on. Believe it or not - this would be a great way to escape from the stressful or high-anxiety times.
• This might come as a surprise to you, but directing all the energies towards a far-off stable object does a lot, in terms of relieving a person off his intense emotions.
• At times, it gets very difficult to suppress your emotion. In such a situation, excuse yourself from the group of people you are with and go to a lonely place. Give vent to your feelings and then return to the scene. Trust me, you would feel much better.
• Another effective technique would be to acknowledge or recognize the emotions you were feeling at the time of emotional outbursts. You would realize that it is generally the negative feelings that you want to control. In such circumstances, ask yourself the reason for the anger. Knowing the reason is likely to help you in future, when you come across similar situations. You would, in turn, react less.
• Remember, mindfulness holds the key for controlling emotions. So, be actively attentive of your feelings and emotions.
• Drinking lots of water is a good way to rule out the negative emotions. It would also benefit you in terms of health. So, just pick up a glass of water and slowly gulp it down. You will surely feel relaxed!

Cheers
K.K ArunKrishna

How To Be Happy

Happiness holds the key to lead a successful life. However, with busy schedules and the need to get to the top of the ladder, this basic element of life has lost its meaning. Today, it is much easier to find a frowning face than a smiling one. Most of you would agree that it feels good when you see someone smiling, while watching someone grimacing acts as dampener on your spirit as well. Do you want to know the secret of staying happy all the time? Happiness means different things to different people. You first need to figure out what happiness means to you and then, you can work out steps to seek the joy and bliss for yourself. If you want to get some more tips on being happy in life, go through the lines below.

How To Be Happy

• To be happy, you first need to find what is important in your life. There are certain things which take a prime concern in your life, like values, family, friends, music and your hobby, and bring a smile to your face. You need to realize what holds the key to your happiness.

• Recollect old times, when you were very happy. Think of what made you happy - was it the place you were in or the person you were with. What was the particular thinking or feeling that made you feel happy? Be with the person or visit the place again and experience the same emotions.

• Make happiness your priority in life. You need to take time out of your busy schedules to do things which are important to you and make you feel elated. If you love ice creams, indulge in having one. If you were once a movie buff, it is the time to catch up with old pals on a movie date.

• Start small and then, work your way ahead. It might not be possible to immediately start doing everything that makes you happy. Take 15 minutes off from the routine life and do things that make you smile, like going for a walk, talking to friends, reading a book, etc.

• Be optimistic in life and shoo away any negativity. Think positive things about yourself, your partner and life in general. In no time, you would realize that you are feeling happy all the time. If pessimistic thoughts creep easily into your mind, maintain a diary where you write all the good things. Read it often. It would help you get rid of the pessimism.

• It is often noted that people who are of the complaining sorts are mostly unhappy. They criticize and grumble about everything which happens in life and fail to see what good things they have in life. Be appreciative of the main aspects of life, such as health, job, love life, friends, family, money, etc.

• Lastly, smile always. It's easier to put up a smile on your face than to have a frown on. By smiling yourself, you can make others happy as well. Make it a habit and soon, you will see the people around you smiling as well.

Cheers
K.K Arun Krishna