Memory force. The positive moments in our life such as our time of success, love or other feelings of joy can make us confident and be optimistic until we make risky steps and seize new opportunities in life. They are a reminder to us of what we can do and they thus help during tough moments. Conversely, high-order negative memories such as failures, heartbreaks, or traumatic experience may leave a deeper memory making people afraid, doubtful, or hold beliefs that limit them. It can be expressed in our reluctance, refusal, or even self-disaster, which prevents us to fulfill our potentials.
The memories influence our choices, since they are the basis of our identity and the way we perceive this world. Another example can be when a person was rejected many times and is afraid to give it another chance to succeed because his/her desires to live in former suffering. The same can be said about the problematic issue of pressure to uphold some standard as a result of previous success, leading to feelings of anxiety going into risk-taking. Such relationship of the past and the present choices occurs usually without our knowledge and strengthens the patterns that either give us powers or restrains us.
But our future does not have to be defined on the past. Knowing how memories influence our thought process, we can become the master of narration. Adding objective consideration of experience to emotional baggage is possible through such practices as mindfulness, therapy, or journaling. By changing our recollection of negative experiences and turning them into stepping stones instead of stumbling blocks we will be able to turn fear into power and regret into wisdom. Finally, the ability to realize the burden of the past and to wisely control its relevance provides us the possibility to get involved into decisions based on nowadays and no longer overwhelmed by the ghosts of the past.
Understanding the Past and Its Influence
The key to learning history is that through it we can know how our experiences have influenced our thoughts, actions and choices. The past has great lessons in it and they provide food on the habits which can be empowering or restricting to us. On the one hand, it is good to accept that our past shapes us and on the other, it is also necessary not to allow it to be our definition. Self-awareness and compassion as aspects of being mindful of our past experiences allows us to escape the unconstructive patterns and utilize our past lessons in moving towards a better future. The past does not present a formula to our future but what we can use to develop, become flexible and be able to change and become better people.
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